In Christian marriage two saints, who still have plenty of sin’s remnant clinging to them, form a lifelong union. This means then, with the baring of the soul’s wiring that marriage exposes, sparks are going to fly. Marital conflict is inevitable.
So when the sea of anger begins rising, the emotional waves start rolling, and the marital boat is rocking, what is one immediate way to batten down the hatches to prevent the ship from capsizing? Bring to mind that this conflict is for your benefit, to help you become more like Christ. Remember that Jesus did not only speak peace and calm the sea for his scared disciples out in the boat in the storm. Before this, while watching from a mountain above as He prayed, He sent the storm to them so they could grow in their holiness by experiencing Him in new ways.