If you are interacting with someone who is experiencing the distress of not feeling "at home" with their biological gender or if you have that experience yourself, it can be a very confusing and frightening time. An acquaintance of mine recently let me know about his struggles with transgenderism and the ways that Jesus has met and delivered him. He has done the great service of recording many of his own struggles and lessons at "Jesus and the Transgender." The blog isn't intended to be a full-scale training resource but genuine encouragement from someone who loves Jesus and those suffering from gender dysphoria as well. It includes frank but appropriate discussion of his own past, as well as the ongoing struggles Jesus is helping him meet. You can read about the mission of the blog, as well as the wise limitations the author uses, here. I commend the resource to you. We as a church need to learn how to love and care for those wading through this struggle. We need to become places where hope and healing can happen in the context of gospel friendships.
Below is a sample of his story.
One of the lies I had to deal with was, “I am a woman trapped in a man’s body.” It played inside for years. For some of you, the lie might be, “I am a man trapped in a woman’s body.” I have no doubt that something could have happened to you “in utero”, that predisposes you to believe this lie, but Jesus must show you this.
Such lies fly in the face of God’s truth in Genesis chapter 1, “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Each person in this world is created by God as either male or female. Your God-given gender is God’s wise choice for you and me...
It took me quite a while before I could begin to speak God’s truth for me about my God-given gender … His choice for me. But God’s Word is powerful. “For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12
Eventually, I could look in the mirror and smile at the person that I saw. I could even thank God for the way that He made me. I stopped asking the question, “Why did You make me this way?” One of the verses that God used was in Isaiah chapter 29: “Surely you have things turned around! Shall the potter be esteemed as the clay; For shall the thing made say of him who made it, “He did not make me”? Or shall the thing formed say of him who formed it, “He has no understanding”?” Finally, I could say, “But now, O LORD, You are our Father; We are the clay, and You our potter; and all we are the work of Your hand.” Isaiah 64:8