Imagine a terrible situation. Imagine yourself off at some point in the future, and that you have ruined your family or friendships; you’ve brought great pain and misery to those who trusted you. Imagine yourself in a moment where it hits you: how much you’ve done, how much you’ve lost, how deeply you’ve hurt people – imagine how hard you’d cry; imagine the heart-ripping regret you’d feel, how you’d do anything and give anything to go back to this time in your life, this very day, this very moment, before any of that horror happens so that you can keep far from the path which led to that destruction. Such joyful thoughts! In a way, they are. Here’s how.
Nashville Statement | Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
The Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood issued a declaration consisting of fourteen articles addressing the gender and marriage issues of our day. Called the Nashville Statement, it was originally signed by a group of influential evangelical and Reformed men and women. You may have seen that it is receiving a great deal of attention. Here are some interesting perspectives as you consider not only what it says, but its tone, purpose, and effectiveness.
Rosaria Butterfield | Why I Signed the Nashville Statement
The author of The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert explains why she believed it was important that she sign this document. She highlights the need for the church to continue to speak prophetically in our age.
Al Mohler | I signed the Nashville Statement. It’s an expression of love for same-sex attracted people.
The president of Southern Baptist Seminary explains the intent of the document is to offer clarity in an age of confusion. With counter declarations like the Denver Statement already being made, Mohler reminds the church of the cultural divide it faces and urges it to rally around Biblical truth.
Rod Dreher | Is the Nashville Statement a Surrender?
The promoter of the Benedict Option, Dreher […]
The Crossway blog site recently published a series of four articles highlighting truths found in David Powlison’s new book Making All Things New: Restoring Joy to the Sexually Broken. Powlison, the executive director of the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation, writes with a biblical directness, captivating illustrations, and compassionate tone on this subject. Just the title of the articles, as seen below, will draw you into the subject, and the content is very helpful and hopeful. After reading them, my wife and I decided to purchase a few copies of the book so we can read it to help us minister to others and to even give to others.
You may want to do the same after reading them yourself.
An Open Letter to Those Debilitated by Their Sexual Sin
Sanctification Is a Direction
Is Sexual Renewal a Simple or Complex Process?
An Open Letter to Those Nonchalant about Their Sexual Sin
I’ve been thinking a little more on the need to guard against the casual adoption of the language of the PC establishment.
What I have found really helpful in thinking about this question is some recent reading about Martin Luther’s ‘Theology of the Word’. The German Reformer, pointing to biblical texts like Genesis 1.3, Romans 10.17 or 2 Corinthians 4.6, believed that the Word of God, as Carl Truman summarizes, “not only describes reality but also determines reality: all reality,” in ‘Luther and the Christian Life’ (p.80).
From the point of view of the Gospel, it is good to ask the question, why is it necessary and important to resist redefinition? Can I suggest that it would be good to bear in mind some or all of the following reasons?
First, because the chief instrument Satan uses to promote unbelief and undermine the truth, is the lies he tells. One example might be the lie of ‘same-sex marriage.’ In reality there is no such thing. Marriage is between one man and one woman. This linguistic redefinition is a false construction of the PC establishment which bears no relation to reality before God.
Second, because this blinding power of words is only removed by the […]
Following Rebecca VanDoodewaard’s article “A High View of Marriage Includes Divorce” here on Gentle Reformation, and with the internet abuzz with Australian reporter Julia Baird’s hit piece on the church regarding abuse that has produced such responses as “An Open Letter to Husbands Who Abuse Their Wives” at TGC, a question has been raised. What is the proper response of a Christian wife who finds herself facing a sexually immoral or abusive husband?
Though the types of situations a wife may encounter can vary greatly, meaning there is no simple blanket answer to this question, certain Biblical principles and options can be pursued. My wife, Miriam, helped me to write this post as we reflected on our experiences in pastoral ministry that, sadly, included too many wives dealing with this issue.
What is a Christian wife to do when she discovers explicit texts from another woman on her husband’s phone? When she is shocked by an explosion of anger that creates a bleeding heart or even a bruised body? When she walks in the room unexpectedly and finds her husband watching pornographic videos?
Each of these scenarios can have quite a range of involvement and intensity, and thus influence how a wife […]
Yesterday in the UK a story hit the headlines – a leading high street pharmaceutical company, Boots, became the center of a political storm and a media feeding frenzy.
In brief the story went something like this. Following recent legalization of the ‘morning after pill’, Boots, when approached, refused to lower the price of the abortion procuring agent, Levonelle.
Without commenting one way or other on potential commercial motives, Boots, it seems, then issued a press statement indicating their reluctance to offend public sensibilities by encouraging irresponsible use of this drug.
Pressure was brought to bear on main UK pharmaceutical retailers by the British Pregnancy Advisory Service. As a result, two other leading stores, Tesco and Superdrug, were happy to lower their prices to make the medication more freely available. All was being done, we are told, in the name of female freedom (with no consideration for the life drowned in UK latrines, and flushed away by Levonelle).
Subsequently, tension was ramped up by a number of Labour Members of the UK Parliament. They had signed, and then made public, a petition that called on Boots Chemists to reconsider their decision. Journalists then got hold of the ‘story’, and, having ‘catastrophized the trivial’, it […]
The following article is a guest post by Rebecca VanDoodewaard, author of Uprooted: A Guide for Homesick Christians and Your Future ‘Other Half’: It Matters Whom You Marry. She is married to William VanDoodewaard, Professor of Church History at Puritan Theological Seminary. They have four children.
During a recent visit, my wife and I discussed these types of issues with Bill & Rebecca. I am thankful for her willingness to express her thoughts so clearly and powerfully in this article.
God hates divorce, doesn’t He? Absolutely. Isn’t the gospel about forgiveness and love? Yes, it is. And pastors and elders can use these two truths in isolation from the rest of Scripture and biblical principles to deny people divorce for biblical grounds. “But marriage is a precious thing,” one pastor told a woman whose husband was in prison for pedophilia. “It would be a wonderful picture of God’s grace to move on from this and focus on your marriage,” another one told the husband of an adulteress. “We’re working with him; he’s really struggling, and so you need to forgive him,” a session tells a woman whose husband has been using pornography for years.
Evangelical and confessional churches are striving to maintain a high […]
Surely you have heard by now the firestorm that broke out in the media this past week regarding Mike Pence following the “Billy Graham Rule.” Simply stated, Pence refuses to eat meals alone with another woman even when conducting business as a pledge of allegiance to his wife and their marriage. Rather than being admired for his marital fidelity, Pence has been ridiculed mercilessly.
In a day when many prominent Christian leaders and pastors are failing and falling in the area of fidelity, this situation provides a teaching moment. Here are some links to help tutor us.
Karen Pence is the vice president’s ‘prayer warrior,’ gut check and shield | Ashley Parker
This article is the original, favorable piece done on Mike Pence’s wife, Karen, that describes how inseparable they are and mentioned Pence’s marital rule. Of special note is that this article did not go viral until the author tweeted out Pence’s rule.
Mike Pence’s Marriage Rule Holds Women Back | Glennon Doyle Melton
For a sample of the outrage, try this Time hit piece.
Don’t Mock Mike Pence For Protecting His Marriage, Commend Him | Mollie Hemingway
This post does just that.
Mike Pence, “Truth’s Table” and Fencing the Law | Richard Phillips
Phillips interacts with a female-hosted Reformed podcast that also took […]
[I’ve kept many of the questions from our college conference’s “Stump the Pastors” session, hoping they would find a good home here.]
“As a guy, is it okay to not want to be married?”
My lovely daughter claims to not like apple pie. So I often answer her simply by saying, “You’re wrong. You do like apple pie. Everyone likes apple pie.” She huffs and gives me her pie.
So it is with some in the church who don’t have a strong desire to be married. “Everyone else is married. Even those who aren’t talk about it all the time. What’s wrong with me? Is it okay to not desire marriage?”
The beeps. The buzzes. The vibrations. The earbuds. The squinting eyes. The bluish glow. They all indicate that the world has invaded our homes in new ways through online portals, and it clamors for our attention. Relationships at home suffer when we are so distracted that we abandon the ones we love…or ought to love. That leads to sadness and loneliness. The unmitigated invasion of the online world into our homes ruins marriages. As husbands know, a happy wife means a happy life. Conversely, when mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!
Part of the problem, especially for men, is that these online portals call us to legitimate responsibilities in the world beyond the home in addition to the illegitimate ways they clamor for our attention. The good news is that there is nothing new. Even in Moses’ day, God addressed the challenge of a man’s responsibility in the world and his calling to make his wife happy.
“When a man is newly married, he shall not go out with the army or be liable for any other public duty. He shall be free at home one year to be happy with his wife whom he has taken” (Deuteronomy 24:5).
Notice the key: dedicated […]